In the Presence of a Meltdown

Lord, You saw the meltdown this morning.  So hard.  Oh Lord, what am I to do when a family member has a meltdown?

God’s Word to us:  Listen. Be patient with them. And hear their concerns.  They are all wrapped up in it then. You can enter in and be that safe person.  When you walk away, like you so often do, then they are all alone.  And that is where the self-loathing begins.  I know it is painful, but stay close by them when they meltdown. And when you need help to do this, pray. I will give you the inner strength and determination you need.  Thank you for asking this really important question.

“May God, who gives this patience and encouragement, help you live in complete harmony with each other, as is fitting for followers of Christ Jesus. Then all of you can join together with one voice, giving praise and glory to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Therefore, accept each other just as Christ has accepted you so that God will be given glory.”  Romans 15:5-7 

We also pray that you will be strengthened with all his glorious power so you will have all the endurance and patience you need. May you be filled with joy, always thanking the Father.” Colossians 1:11

My Heart’s Cry is for us to have the courage to stay during a meltdown when it’s easier to leave. Pray for inner strength and determination.

How many times have you been like I have and run away, when really you should have stayed to just be there and listen.  Who better to love them? I don’t want it to spin into anything worse, like self-loathing, because that has a whole new set of problems.  But I only have what I have to give at that moment. It’s hard to give care and hang in there when I’m feeling depleted. Below are two prayers from the Bible verses of today’s post.  I’ve changed them so we can pray them for ourselves.  I hope it is useful.

Dear God, you give me patience and encouragement. Help me live in harmony with each other, as is fitting for followers of Christ Jesus. I need help accepting them as Christ has accepted me, so God will be given glory.

I also pray I will be strengthened with all your glorious power, so I will have all the endurance and patience I need. May I be filled with joy, always thanking you, my Father. God, please remember I’ve prayed this prayer today, because I’m going to need all this help again, the next time my loved one has a melt down.  Thank you for caring so much.

In Jesus name, Amen.



New Steps of Faith

Today, I am feeling that nothing I do is good enough.  Where did my self-confidence go? Every time I try to do the next thing, I start questioning myself.  I hate those feelings!  Lord, please help me see why I’m struggling so much with this today.

God’s Word to us: You are about to walk in some pretty new steps of faith.  Speaking at a retreat and then starting a women’s group are not your normal day-to-day activities.  It is here where you will have to use faith. And so since these new things have begun to press in on you, you’re beginning to question your normal activities too.  My desire is for you to give it all to me and ask for My help.  Whether it be old or new, I will help you.

This is my command—be strong and courageous! Do not be afraid or discouraged. For the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9

My Heart’s Cry is for us to remember that as we walk out new steps of faith, He is there. He is saying to us to ask Him for help and He will help us.  In this prayer, you saw that my new steps of faith were even affecting my old normal day-to-day activities.  When I noticed what was going on with my self confidence, I took the time to stop, sit down, and pray. Something was wrong in me. I knew something was off if I couldn’t even decide whether to wash the white clothes first or the dark clothes first.  Have you ever done that? Has even the most simple ordinary task seemed difficult? I love this verse because it says, be strong and courageous! We are not to be afraid or discouraged. Why? Because the Lord is with us. He wants us to give it all to Him. He wants us to ask Him for His help.

What new steps of faith are you walking in today?  Read this verse again then take courage! He is with you wherever you go.

Have a blessed weekend!!!  -Kim




My Rags


I feel like a rag doll coming to you. I’m not pretty on the inside or out. Just leftovers. I’ve given my best pieces to meet my family’s needs and even my own so all I have left are rags and remnants. Lord I need something new to work with. Fresh new material.  Something to get excited about again. Something new to create with. Please answer the call of my heart. It’s upsetting to live like this.

God’s word to us: I hear the cry of your heart. Life sometimes feels like it just goes on and on with no rest or breaks.  Then you do feel like this rag doll you are describing. I am here to tell you your hope needs to be in me, when you have days like this or even moments like this.  Come to me with your rags. For I can make beautiful things out of them that will put a smile on your face again.  What do you have? Let me see your bundle. Remember I created the world out of nothing. I can certainly make something out of this, your rags.

Now all glory to God, who is able, through his mighty power at work within us, to accomplish infinitely more than we might ask or think. Eph 3:20

I remember this dark day. After writing this the Lord impressed upon me to bring Him what I had. One by one I listed these worn out pieces. This blue one is what I have left after a hard day’s work, and this green one is what’s left of my health, this yellow one is what’s left from doing dishes and cleaning the house, and this purple one is what is leftover after paying bills and going grocery shopping. There is just not much left of value.

My Heart’s Cry is for us to remember our hope needs to be in Him not in the bundle of rags we find ourselves still holding onto. When we surrender them He can make something beautiful. He created the world out of nothing surely He can make something nice and of value of our rags. Talk to God about it now. It’s your turn.

I find it extremely interesting that in my prayer I asked for something new. I wanted new material to work with. But His answer focused on that He can make something out was leftover. Isn’t that us. We want a new life. Something new and exciting to focus on.  What are you thoughts about this. I’d love to hear them! If you are my Facebook friend you can comment on the post in Facebook. If you are a WordPress Follower, you know what to do.  Have a great day. -Kim

What is my Goal?

What is my goal? That’s how I’m feeling. I am a housewife but I barely fit in everything I need to do in a day. I feel like I lose track of time. Please give me clarity when it comes to what I need to do.  It seems like the back end has been severed because I do and do but still there is no relief or sense of accomplishment. Please fix that part of me.

God’s word to us: Daughter, if you could see your days like I see them you would understand better. You fail to see all the little victories. All heaven is poised waiting for a kind word to be spoken, a caring heart to be shared, a loving look to be noticed and reciprocated. These are the values we look for in each day. This is what’s important. Yes, the dishes need to get done and everyone needs to get fed; but remember the greatest of these is love. So let love be your goal. Your world will slow down and you will enjoy it so much more.

“Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.  Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. Above all, clothe yourselves with love, which binds us all together in perfect harmony.  And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts. For as members of one body you are called to live in peace. And always be thankful.” Colossians 3:12-15

When I am task oriented, rather than relationship oriented, I forget to treat my loved ones with kindness, gentleness and patience. If someone is having an off day and not keeping to the schedule, we are all in trouble because then my attitude is affected. In these times I need to be flexible, give grace, and clothe myself in love which binds us all together in perfectly harmony.

My Heart’s Cry is for us to see our days the way He created them – as opportunities to love. Our values need line up with God’s values, with love as our goal.


She’s Growing Up

My daughter is growing up. She just celebrated her 9th birthday. That’s halfway to adulthood. And if I remember right from having the boys, the second half goes faster.  Oh Lord, how do I make the most of my time with her?  How do I make sure I impress on her the important things in life?

God’s word to us: Slowdown. My thoughts are not your thoughts and my ways are not your ways. I purposed for her to be with you right now, learning by your side.  As you learn new things she’s automatically learning them too. There is no way you could plan all that I have planned for you both. This is a very special time. So don’t fret. Trust my way for your lives. You will make the most of your time together and you’ll impress her on important things in life. Both will happen naturally. I leave you with this verse.

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:5-6

My Heart’s Cry is to trust God’s plan as He leads us while raising our children.  As we learn new things, we include our kids so they can learn them too. When we run into challenges we show them how a Christian handles life. God is using all this to shape our family and prepare us for the future.

I loved what He said, “There is no way you could plan all that I have planned for you both.” This takes so much pressure off me to be the perfect mom by having everything planned, organized and under control. My heart deeply needed to hear this. I really just need to live this verse out day by day, trusting Him and His plans. He will teach me how to best raise my daughter.

Comment on how you feel about your kids growing up. How does God’s word encourage you?



Broken Plate

A couple of days ago my daughter was doing dishes with me.  When she went to put the last plate in the dishwasher, it slipped out of her little wet hands.  It came crashing down to the floor and split in two.  Oh my, how her spirit was crushed – but mine wasn’t.  I allow room for her to be human and make mistakes. I gave her a big hug and said, “those things happen sometimes.  I’m not mad at you. I forgive you.”

Two days later I was stacking clean dishes and I didn’t lift one dish high enough. The edges collided with each other and now the dish has a chip in it.  Thankfully I can still use the dish but it’s certainly damaged.

Lord, I am incredibly hard on myself!  I love these dishes.  Why did a 1/2 inch error in my judgement make me ruin something I love? I’m just so bummed.  And the real question that’s going on in my heart is, “Why did I have so much grace for my daughter’s mistake but not for myself.  What is really going on here?”

God’s word to us: I’m glad you asked, for this is an important question.  You don’t expect her to be perfect but you expect yourself to be.  Here lies the answer to your quandary.  Love yourself just as much as I have loved you.  I have forgiven all of your mistakes.  I have forgiven every single one of them whether there was sin involved or not.  Now go away from this and be unashamed, for I have already covered it at the cross.

Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13

My Heart’s Cry for you is to believe that God loves you. If you have asked Jesus to be your Savior, then He has forgiven all your mistakes and even all your sins. I believe God also wants us to apply this to ourselves, “Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” Sometimes it’s hardest to forgive ourselves for mishandling something. We give grace to our kids for not being perfect, but we don’t give ourselves that same grace. We are so hard on ourselves. Take a moment and remember God’s great love for you. Then take time to love and forgive yourself, so you can forgive others. Love God first, love others, and then love yourself.

 Lord, Forgive us our sins, as we have forgiven those who sin against us. Matthew 6:12


A Busy Mind

I am praying and my mind has wondered off several times.  I’m thinking about what I need to get done in the next few days.  I have a tax appointment, I have to plan a dessert club talk, and my mom is flying into town for a visit.  I can’t even focus and it’s You I’m talking to! You are The God of the Universe who listens to me.  Please help me to focus more.  I really do care about my prayer time.

God’s word to us: You are so right. Your mind is all over the place.  I’m glad you’ve noticed. Sometimes you don’t.  It is in these times you need to cast your cares on Me first.  In your heart, if you already have given Me permission to help with your taxes, help with the talk and help working with the schedule, then your mind won’t need to solve these things.  It would be at rest. So take some deep breaths and let’s start again.

Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. I Peter 5:7

Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding.
 Seek his will in all you do, and he will show you which path to take. Proverbs 3:5-6

My Hearts Cry is for you to know that God cares about every detail of your busy week. He asks us to give our cares and worries to Him.  This day my prayers were unfocused because I would pray a sentence and then my mind would wander off trying to figure out some little detail. Then I’d pray again and off my mind went – trying to solve another problem.  I did not feel close to Jesus.  In fact I felt guilty for how I was treating Him.

If we truly give Him our worries, we don’t need to solve them anymore. It’s a surrender.  I wonder how many times we worry through our prayers, just talking about our cares, yet never really giving our cares to Him. This affects our closeness to Him, our relationship with Him.  So the next time you have a Busy Mind, you know what to do. Give your worries to Him.



Helping a Family in Need

I have been feeling guilty (or convicted) for not helping a family I know who is in need.  They are so sweet, but they have fallen on hard times.  And although I have prayed for them and prayed with them, I haven’t done anything to help them get by. I remember when we had our last child, over ten years after the others, this precious family gave us so many needed baby items.  Also my adult son still recalls them as good Sunday school teachers. Recently the mom helped in a Play my child was in. Over the years, in so many ways, they have given of themselves to our family. How can I best help them?

God’s word to us: The excuses seem endless why we haven’t helped people. I say in my word, “If you help the poor, you are lending to the Lord and He will repay you.” And I do, I will make good on that promise. And I will give your family wisdom on how to help theirs.  And because they are fellow believers, this is how the body of Christ, The Church, works – loving and helping one another. Think now how would you like to help them?

If you help the poor, you are lending to the Lordand he will repay you! Proverbs 19:17

We know what real love is because Jesus gave up his life for us. So we also ought to give up our lives for our brothers and sisters. If someone has enough money to live well and sees a brother or sister in need but shows no compassion—how can God’s love be in that person?  Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions. I John 3:16-18

My Heart’s Cry for you is to listen to the tug on your heart to help. Pray to God for wisdom because He knows what they need. You could ask them too what their most urgent need is. They may need a babysitter while they go to an important appointment or job interview.  They may need clothing for their children that your child has recently outgrown.  This is why praying and even asking the family is wise.

Another thought is have a line in your budget set up for helping people.  I used to have a benevolence envelop in my purse that I would put a specified dollar amount in every month and that worked well. Recently we’ve been using gift cards for gas and food for my husband and I to always have on hand. This has helped in many ways. It reminds us we are called to be givers, we are ready to give and it keeps our giving on a budget.

Always remember when helping people that God is the rescuer. We are to listen to him and do our part. Just this week I was asked for money for gas so a friend could get to work.  I prayed and heard I was not to help. So I prayed for her situation and that God would provide what she needed somehow. I have full confidence God helped in some way. Maybe not even the way she anticipated.  But I’ve learned over the years to fully lean on God for guidance. He holds their plan. And He knows when I am to be apart of it.

No more excuses. Pray for wisdom today. And help accordingly.  Dear children, let’s not merely say that we love each other; let us show the truth by our actions. I John 3:18

Comment on a way you’ve been able to Help a Family in Need.